my little bear last halloween. he swung in his swing while he passed out candy.
we bundled him up while we went about our daily chores, working in the yard, and raking leaves. we didn't mind him making life a little more difficult. he was worth it.
he made funny faces whenver we tried to get a good picture.
sometimes he looked like dom deluise.
we thought we were teaching him. but he was teaching us. about growing, about love, about life.
we were no longer two. we were three. we were no longer a couple. we were a family. our lives changed. drastically. we had to be home by 7:30, so he could go to sleep. going out was nearly an impossibility. we missed our friends, we missed our lives. but this new life was something extraordinary. we learned, and we loved.
when i look at him now, it is unbelievable to believe that 14 months ago he was that tiny boy of wonder so tiny and so new. how he has changed, how life has changed, how we have changed. our life is new. our life is full. our life is not what we expected it to be. our dreams of keeping life the same, our dreams of a perfect house and perfect jobs, have changed. our dreams are now to keep the clutter off the counter enough to make dinner each night. our dreams are to sleep in past 7 on the weekends, trying to keep the baby up late on friday night. our dreams are to be family. a family full of love and life. our dreams are to watch asher grow, to not miss a day, a moment. our dreams are to see who he becomes, praying we can do him right. our dreams are for happiness, and the ability to pay bills, and a future together long and true. our dreams are just to be. to be a family.
"The family. We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another's desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together."
"The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."
"What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life - to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories."
"Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family."