our family...

(taken by donna boucher) here is asher the day he was born.  this is one of my favorite pictures of him.  i love how little he looks.  he was not a tiny baby. 7lbs 13oz 21in, but he seemed so little.  notice all my bracelets and my iv line.  this picture is my natural childbirth dream gone up in smoke.  i was still numb from the surgery when this picture was taken.  and really itchy, the morphine shot right into my spinal block line made me really itchy... i was sore and tired and sweating.  i was glowing.  i was on cloud.  i was so happy to have him safe in my arms.  for hours we looked at him and held him, running on adrenaline and love.  i didn't know then what was to come.

i loved laying with him after nursing in our lazy weeks at home after birth.  to me this was perfect.

my little bear last halloween.  he swung in his swing while he passed out candy.

we bundled him up while we went about our daily chores, working in the yard, and raking leaves.  we didn't mind him making life a little more difficult. he was worth it.

he made funny faces whenver we tried to get a good picture.

sometimes he looked like dom deluise.

he loved being outside.  we watched fireworks, and he was wowed.

he started eating people food, and loved corn on the cob.

and then he turned one.  (i know this picture is blury, but i love the look on his face).

we went to the zoo.  (this picture looks nothing like him, isn't it funny how pictures can do that sometimes)  and ate fish and chips.  he didn't know this day was a milestone.  he didn't care... but we sure did.

my life turned into his life.  babies do that.  it's what they call family.  i would rather be with my family than anywhere else on earth.  he would rather with his bear-bear and his pooh-pooh than anywhere else on earth.

sometimes he screamed and cried and threw fits... we were confused and didn't know what to do.  but, in time we learned.

my boys were not always amuzed with my my desire to document our life.  but someday they will thank me that they have millions of pictures of us throughout our life.

we thought we were teaching him.  but he was teaching us.  about growing, about love, about life.

we were no longer two.  we were three.  we were no longer a couple.  we were a family.  our lives changed.  drastically.  we had to be home by 7:30, so he could go to sleep.  going out was nearly an impossibility.  we missed our friends, we missed our lives.  but this new life was something extraordinary.  we learned, and we loved.

when i look at him now, it is unbelievable to believe that 14 months ago he was that tiny boy of wonder so tiny and so new.  how he has changed, how life has changed, how we have changed.  our life is new.  our life is full.  our life is not what we expected it to be.  our dreams of keeping life the same, our dreams of a perfect house and perfect jobs, have changed.  our dreams are now to keep the clutter off the counter enough to make dinner each night.  our dreams are to sleep in past 7 on the weekends, trying to keep the baby up late on friday night.  our dreams are to be family.  a family full of love and life.  our dreams are to watch asher grow, to not miss a day, a moment.  our dreams are to see who he becomes, praying we can do him right.  our dreams are for happiness, and the ability to pay bills, and a future together long and true.  our dreams are just to be.  to be a family.

"The family. We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another's desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together."
Erma Bombeck

"The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."
Thomas Jefferson

"What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life - to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories."
George Eliot

"Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family."
Anthony Brandt


  1. every time i see a picture of matt, i think, "he is a good dresser." and asher looks like a mini matt.

    good things to come in life, this is just the beginning.

  2. This is lovely Melinda. I love seeing all your pictures!!!

  3. Jennifer12:19

    I just love that beautiful boy and his beautiful mama!

  4. Anonymous17:23

    God bless and keep your sweet family, I do so pray!
    love and prayers, jep

  5. Anonymous15:16

    Beautiful family! God has something especially wonderful planned for you!!! --- love you and so proud of you --- Mom


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